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  Recently, I came across a situation that made me think at how we handle ourselves when we are angry or when we are dealing with angry people.

What is anger?

Anger is an emotion, an exaggerated state of mind, created as response to feelings of unhappiness, caused by unpleasant circumstances. The unpleasant circumstances can be the result of a situation we dislike or the fact that we are prevented to fulfill our wishes. The more we are caught up in the unpleasant situation, the more the probability to become angry.

As the probability to be caught in unpleasant situations is high, from the missing the bus in the morning, to an argument with a colleague or your partner, we have to learn how to control our feelings of anger.

How can we handle anger?

1. Recognize the presence of anger and what caused it.

2. You need to want to change the state. Understand that anger will not serve you and you need to change the state.

You can do this by asking yourself questions like: How can I be happy now? What will make me happy at this time? What is funny about this situation that I didn’t see yet?

By asking these questions, your brain will start to search like an internet search engine the right answers. Maybe at the beginning you will not receive positive, happy answers, but you have to ask yourself these kinds of questions until you will receive a constructive, positive response that will make you to change your state.

3. Use your body to create a positive state. From psychology we know that “Emotions are the results of motion.” So, if you want to feel positive, happy, you need to express that through your body.

How do we recognize a happy person? First, by the smile; and second, by the posture of the body. So, if you want to feel happy, smile, even if at the beginning this might be difficult. And stand tall, you will look and feel more confident.

Anda Tudor, Life Coach 

May 26, 2011

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